“It is in the darkest hour, when we are faced with our deepest most wrenching fears, that we are given the greatest strength. The choice is whether we succumb to the fear or rise with courage to face our truth and shine our brilliance as our sword of valor.” 
― Monika Zands

The world is in a lot of chaos since the past decade, and it seems it continued to spiral into more conflicts and problems. I hope by the time you grew up, and have a foot in the society, the world is in a lot better place. 

Everyone faces the darkest of time maybe once or more in their lives, remember never give in to fear, no matter what people trying to make you scare of something, don't lose your way, you should always uphold the principal of humanity. The moment you give in to your fear, the moment you'll lose what's most important as part of humanity.

We don't ceased to help people, because we are afraid.
Fear is a radical thing, it only exists because you think it is there,

Fear doesn't stop you to love someone because you are afraid of being heart broken.
Fear shouldn't stop you to become who you want to be, because you fear you might fail.
Nonetheless, fear shouldn't stop you to help someone or to do the right thing,
just because someone believed they might get hurt.

You can choose to be the coward and react by fear,
or you can be the brave warrior to defend the oppressed.

I'm afraid there is no black and white in this world, but a lot of grey areas.
But fact is fact, if one violates the nature of rights,
you are right to defend it.

Be the star in the darkest hour of the night sky,
don't be the black cloud that blocks the lights leading the ways for others.


xxx

You will fall in love many times in your life time.
Each time, it will make you feel a little different about falling in love.

Perhaps, as you grow older, you will becoming more and more scare of falling in love.
We all do.
But don't be.

One of the most important thing I learned in life is that don't let your experience to define you.
Let who you want to be and to become to define you.

Experience is supposed to make you smarter,
not to make you scare as you take every step and every decision.

Fall in love is a wonderful thing.
The stars you see in each other's eyes, the sweetest smile you have on your face.
Everything just feel so natural and meant to be.
So don't be scare to fall in love.

As a woman, the most important thing is NOT to fall in love CRAZILY
at the beginning.

Because when you fall in love crazily, you lose yourself completely,
and that person you are in love with, can't see who you are anymore.
How can you expect that person to fall crazily in love just as you do?
In the essence, it is NOT TO LOSE YOURSELF even when you are in love.

On occasions, you might experience,
there is a wrong time to fall in love crazily, or sometimes the wrong person.
The only way to prevent a hard painful fall, is when the timing is right.
Open your eyes, and see the person's inside.

We are a creature fill with a complexity of emotions,
and we are generally perceived as sensitive beings,
and with great sympathy and compassion.
These are the tools (if you embrace it),
one day they will be the most useful tool to help you cope better when you become a mother, a partner or a wife. 

While some tools are useful at something, it has its cons too.
They are also why sometimes we are so blind to facts,
sometimes we even choose to ignore it.

Control your pounding heart, and get to know the person first.
If you can't even be friends with that person,
you can forget about falling crazily in love with that person.

Don't fill all sort of fantasy into a person you don't know,
they are a smoke screen, a fantasy you create to suit your imagination.

Consider these aspects:
They could be good looking, see if they also have a kindred heart.
They might be saying the sweetest things in the world, see if their actions say otherwise.
They are being very nice to you, see how they treat other people, especially the different kind to themselves.
Do they respect you, just as who you are?

Only time can tell if a person is right for you.
Carry yourself with self-respect, and never lower yourself, your expectations and perceptions for anyone.

Find someone who can have fun with you, who can make you laugh whole heartedly,
and who can grow older, wiser and maturer together with.

Lastly and most importantly,
don't forget you have a life to live and a future you are longing for too.
Don't give up the life you want because of the person you fall in love with.
That person is supposed to have the same aspects, value and expectations in life just like you do.